
So it's the day after Thanksgiving, and company (Rob's sister and her boyfriend) have left after a nice four-day visit. We'd planned their visit weeks in advance, and leading up to Thanksgiving, I was looking forward to it . . . but also sort of dreading it.
We have a lot of company, but generally the people who come to visit are fellow dog people--a lot of them fellow pit bull people, at that (last Thanksgiving, it was us and our friend Aja who is a dog trainer who owns two Schutzhund III titled pit bulls, for example). Rob's sister and her boyfriend love animals and do like dogs, but they are cat people. They volunteer with cat rescue and own four rescue cats themselves, occasionally foster cats for the local shelter. I kept wondering how they'd feel about our dogs--our part pit bull Tucker, who has as much prey drive as the day is long and thinks smaller furrier things exist for him to eat, and our American pit bull terrier Doc, whose cropped ears and lean physique do, I admit, make him look rather formidable.
Tucker, I figured, would be easy. He's a mix, he only looks like he's got pit bull influence if someone tells you (when we tell people, they look at him and go, "oh, yeah, you're right, he does look like he's part pit bull!"). He's a lover, a certified therapy dog, and he's got floppy ears and an expressive, puppyish face that could make you melt. I knew that once they spent a bit of time with him, they'd love him. Everyone does, he's that easy to be around.
I thought Doc might be a harder sell--he's 100 percent ox in a pit bull suit, and he spends much of his time breaking things, stumbling over things, and plowing through things as he goes about his business. He knows all of his commands very well but still, he lacks that nice house-dog polish that dogs that were raised in families usually have. Doc was, from the little I can gather about his past, raised on a chain in Alabama and was confiscated in an animal control raid in the early 90s. So even though he will sit and attention heel and retrieve dumbbells over walls and all that, there's a decidedly primitive, uncultured side to him that we just can't hide. Got something in your hands? Doc will jump up in the air and try to get a good view of it, just because he's curious and he knows he's not allowed to actually jump on you. Want to say hi and ask Doc for a kiss? You're likely to get a face full of exuberant headbutt and slobber and maybe a paw in the crotch for good measure. Leave something that smells good on the counter? Don't expect it to still be there when you get back, because Doc just cannot resist counter surfing when no one is around.
But the hardest thing for most people to get their heads around, really, is the fact that we don't let the boys interact unless we are able to give 100 percent of our attention to them so we can head off any problems before they arise. Any time we are out of the house--hell, out of the room!--the dogs are not left alone together. When I'm busy doing something (like writing this blog, for instance) I put Doc behind a baby gate in the kitchen while Tucker naps on the couch. When food is around, the dogs are separated because they are both too food driven to be trusted to behave around such a valuable resource.
Generally people see the metal gate in the kitchen, with the big white pit bull behind it, and assume that Doc is mean and can't be trusted around animals or people. Even after we explain to them that it's just our way of managing the dogs and keeping them out of trouble, they sort of just feel a concern about Doc . . . I remember once my cousin came to visit with her boyfriend and his 10 year old son, and even though we explained to them that the only reason we were leaving Doc in the kitchen was because he was going to be so excited about company, we didn't want both dogs running to the door and getting all riled up and maybe getting obnoxious with one another, they were instantly suspicious of Doc. I took him out and showed them his sits and downs and cute pet tricks, and when the son came over to give Doc a biscuit, the father instinctively just grabbed his kid and said "No!" Poor Doc. He really loves being with people and gets along with everybody.
So anyway, Rob's sister and boyfriend were coming, and I was wondering how they would respond to my crazy pit bull, who was obviously so unstable he couldn't be trusted to run the house freely with my sweet little therapy dog mutt.
But fortunately, along with a lot of his bad habits Doc has also retained a certain amount of Southern charm and hospitality, and he got to work convincing them that really, he was not such a bad guy. They arrived on a Tuesday and for their first day, I left Doc confined a lot of the day so they could get a chance to relax and acclimate. They were fine with him, so on Wednesday the gloves were off and I released the beast, and I was quickly stunned at how intuitive he was--he can't help being clumsy and uncouth, but he was remarkably gentle and easy on our new guests and gave respectable amounts of friendly dog kisses. He put them at ease very quickly, and by Thanksgiving evening he was up on the couch with them cuddled into a tiny pit bull ball, napping and snoring with them while they watched James Bond movies. He was gentle, he was easygoing, he stayed out of the way (mostly) and really rose to the occasion.
He definitely made friends. And I have to say, he really impressed me once again with his versatility--raised on a chain, brought to a shelter, picked up by a rescue, bounced around rescue homes, trained in all manner of ways by a number of people, finally landing in my house, picking up a really challenging dog sport with me, and he's never once missed a beat. He's a working dog, he's a house dog, he's got a past, he's fine with his present. He's just all-around the stuff I admire in a good, balanced pit bull. And very little of it is my doing--almost all of what he is, he is because of what a good pit bull was designed to be.